Making New Friends in Your 30s
Welcome to a brand-new segment on Tarin It Up—Tips & Tiddybits Tuesdays! We're kicking things off with a big one: making friends as an adult. If you’ve ever felt like it’s way harder than it should be, you’re not alone (seriously). In this episode, I’m talking about the awkward, sometimes uncomfortable, but totally worthwhile process of putting yourself out there—especially in the outdoor and adventure world.
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Why Is This So Damn Hard?
Let’s be real—between routines, work schedules, and life in general, making adult friendships can feel like a full-time job. Add in a dose of self-doubt or fear of rejection, and it’s no wonder we hesitate to reach out. I share my own experiences (yes, even I get nervous about sliding into someone’s DMs!) and remind you that fear doesn’t mean stop—it just means try anyway.
“That little voice saying you're not enough? It’s lying.” – Tarin
Where to Start: Tips That Actually Work
I’m not just here to commiserate—I’ve got actual tips to help you get out there and find your people. Whether it’s chatting with someone at the gym, joining a local outdoor group, or using apps like ILLA to find adventure buddies, there are real ways to connect that don’t feel forced or fake.
“You just have to try. Start talking to people.”
You’ll hear how social media, gyms, and climbing communities can be total goldmines for building your dream crew—and why starting small can make a big difference.
Key Takeaways from This Episode
✅ Adult friendships take effort, but they’re worth it
✅ Fear of rejection is normal—do it anyway
✅ Community spaces like gyms = connection potential
✅ Apps like ILLA can match you with your next hiking partner
✅ Say yes to the invite (or send it yourself!)
✅ Use social media to find real-life friendships, not just scroll
✅ Reaching out once might not work—but persistence does
✅ Invite someone along for an activity—they’ll probably be glad you did
✅ There’s no age limit on making new friends
✅ Building community is personal growth in action
Let’s Find Your People
If you’ve been craving deeper social connections or hoping to meet fellow adventure lovers, let this be your reminder: you’re not too late, too awkward, or too anything. There’s space for you—and friends waiting to meet you. 💫
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